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Somebody, Nobody: The Fierce Battle of Identity

Somebody, Nobody: The Fierce Battle of Identity

Hiba Zaidi

At one point in a teenagers life, everything seems like a puzzle where none of the pieces fit each other. Neither belonging anywhere or to somebody nor understanding who they are as a person.

Who am I?

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There is a time when you are a teenager when you don’t really belong to anybody. You aren’t particularly a daughter, nor are you anyone’s partner. You’re neither a parent nor do you consider yourself a child.

This is when you fall hopelessly in love with everything and everyone, falling over your feet for strangers you see for nanoseconds on the street before they disappear, romanticizing each facet of your life; drinking coffee in a cup with your name spelt right, the smell of paperbacks at the local library, a row of fedoras on the windowsill of a shop, the neon lighting up the front of shady motels, the stack of television monitors in the store window (each playing a different television show), a violinist on the subway.

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The Normal Somebody?

At this particular moment in time, the world, to you, is so strange and intense that it creates this feeling within you where you truly believe you belong to no one but yourself. And so you start forming opinions and beliefs, you watch television shows and movies, you read books and newspapers; all of which eventually mould and influence you into the person that you eventually become. Mankind has become a byproduct of the society we helped create, a society that tells us what is and what isn’t “normal”. Do you remember who you were before you were forced into the role of who you should be?

With the onslaught of social media, there is this sudden feeling of needing to be unique. Especially as a teenager, we’re constantly plagued with the question of originality. There is a method of social control theorized by Peter Berger, “Not only do people live in society but society lives in them,” he says.

Peter Berger

In this, people in groups conform to social norms partially knowingly and partially as a reflection based on predominant expectations in society. You have been created as you for a reason. Whether you’re “basic” or “different” should not matter. As individuals, we must accept our oddities and abilities. Our allegorical flaws make us who we are. This concept of “being different” is so very run down and redundant.

Some may shame you, “How dull it must be to lead a life deprived of any highlands to die on, you, on your expansive arid prairie of acceptance and accommodation, while I predominate over the lush, rolling hills of irrational things I have chosen to obtusely stake my entire identity on.” They will say that. But that’s okay.

You don’t need to be peculiarly different. At some point in these formative years, you will meet someone, not necessarily romantically, it may be a platonic soul mate.

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You are You!

I don’t know why it is, but they will feel like home, and everywhere you’ve never been, all at once. It doesn’t make sense. Or maybe it does? And every new and undiscovered place. Maybe love is the safest place you could ever be, you have yet to go, all at the same time. I think that’s perfectly how it’s supposed to feel. And when this happens you will feel the need to conform to expectations and alter yourself to fit with them. Don’t.

You will also face rejection and roadblocks which make you want to change, but it’s okay when your expectations, your dreams, lead to disappointment, pain. It is okay because this means that you have tried, that you have learned, that you are an experience richer. You need to get up again and take your experience with you.

Focus on yourself, your next rendezvous with fate, a new experience, and a promising future that lies ahead.

You must begin feeling it- that sense of self-awakening. There should be a gentle rage simmering inside, getting stronger by the day. Hold it close: nurture it and let it grow. Don’t let anyone take it away. It is rocket fuel and finally, you will be going places. You should be able to feel it down to your very core-this is your time. You will not only climb mountains, you will move them too.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

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So at the end of the day, with all the people in the world trying to be different, aren’t you exactly like them? What a paradoxical conundrum; in pursuit of uniqueness you must do exactly what everyone else does.

We hear characters in movies say things like “I want to be somebody” But “somebody” is utterly subjective. You may be the main character in your life and a mere extra in someone else’s. So why try to alter your own reality and narrative to fit someone else’s?

When all is said and done, we are all, both somebody and nobody.

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Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

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Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

Change is an inevitable, leisurely process. You will find yourself evolving aeons after you thought you’d reached the paragon of your personality. However, the worst thing you can do, is the force that changes because of anyone other than you. While individuals indeed have a certain amount of individuality, Berger’s statement still applies; society lives in every one of us, and there is little an individual can do to manipulate it. Freedom has a large range of meanings.

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