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4 Steps to Forgive Easily : Just for Yourself

4 Steps to Forgive Easily : Just for Yourself

Abiramee Kathirgamanathan

If someone apologizes to you forgive them for yourself and them. If someone doesn’t ask for forgiveness you should still forgive them but this time for yourself. In this article, you will understand why it’s so important to forgive everyone and the numerous benefits it has for you. 

“It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive, Forgive everybody.” 
Maya Angelou 

Why Forgive? 

This quote really hits me because generally, people think that you forgive people only 
because they plead for it. However, there’s the other side of forgiveness, the one that you do for yourself. No matter the situation, no matter how much pain it caused, you should forgive everyone: only for yourself. 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Moreover, when you can’t move on, you’re stuck in one mindset and make all decisions using that mindset. This causes you to not make the best choices resulting in further consequences. If someone hurt you you should definitely forgive them because it takes a lot to repent for your mistakes and admit that you were wrong. Believe me when I say that you yourself have probably doubted yourself at least once before apologizing to someone. When someone doesn’t apologize to you, sometimes it may be because they’re afraid that it might make them a coward. 

The True Coward 

However, the truth is that the one who doesn’t apologize is the true coward. The only one who has a strong heart will apologize for what they’ve done. So imagine what a person you’d need to be in order to forgive someone without them having to apologize to you! It’s not so easy since you would need to let go of the anger that you have towards that person and go back to how you were feeling before they committed the mistake. 

Ways to Forgive 

Acknowledge the Hurt 

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  • Don’t minimize it or deny the wrong that was done against you. 
  • Journaling is a great way to work through anger and hurt. It organizes your thoughts and helps you acknowledge the truth as you see it in black and white. 

Identify your Emotions 

  • When someone does something to hurt you, you might experience regret and anger. These emotions are not wrong but are a normal response to an offence. 
  • It is important to identify how the offence made you feel and then to express it. After writing down the offence, write down how you felt when the offence happened and how you have felt since then. 

Set Boundaries 

  • Decide what you need to do to protect yourself from letting this person hurt you again. For instance, if someone is offensive to you verbally, you can choose not to associate with them, or tell them that if they begin to insult you that you will not talk to them until they are willing to speak kindly. 

Make a Commitment 

  • Make a personal or (if possible) public commitment to forgive the person for what they have done. 
  • Commit to not using the thing they have done against you as a weapon against them. 

However, this is not to say that sometimes it isn’t impossible. You need to first develop the right mindset. You need to understand the various benefits that you yourself will receive from forgiving that person. You receive peace of mind, you’re able to move on and you’re able to remove negativity from your life. So the next time someone commits a mistake, even if they don’t apologize to you, forgive them. It’ll be the best favour you can do to yourself. 

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Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

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Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

Define forgive, in your own words. It should be something like to stop feeling angry for a mistake (someone) has done. In literal terms, your anger has great impacts on your body. However, these are increased when thinking about the consequences of showing that anger towards others, think about how many people’s feelings you unnecessarily hurt, think about how many relationships you taint. So is there really a benefit in risking all of that by not forgiving someone and moving on? 

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