It may not always be easy to get to be the best version of you, there is always room for improvement in all aspects, in a 3 part series, these articles aim to help you find your new self and help make you a better you.
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Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
It all started out by that little push by my parents to do something that would actually benefit others around me. I started making masks for others and started a fundraising page for people to donate to, which helped COVID-19 victims around the world, and I am proud to say that I raised over $1500 in just a matter of 3 months.
Yes, I did this because it was for a good cause, but through this, I recognized my value. That feeling of pride that I had when I handed over masks, was something that I had never felt before. This made me want to be even better. Not just in contributing to my community, but being the better version of myself. It made me love myself – or as some would call it, self-love, which is essential to be successful.
A few months after I started my fundraising page, I came across a few really big realizations that I think are very important in order to lead on to a successful future. Without making these realizations yourself, nobody would ever see you at your highest potential. So I am here not to tell you all of my realizations, but to trigger a change in mindset in you all, and hope to see a change in your future.
In this article and the following I am going to be listing several tips that you can use to truly be yourself and love yourself!
Fall in Love with Yourself
In order to be successful, you have to fall in love. Now, I am not talking about loving another woman, or loving another man, but instead, yourself. Personally, I never really liked myself. It is hard to admit, but it is true. I have always picked on myself that I had to be better – that I could be better.
But criticizing yourself is not the only thing that adds value to you. I never realized that a person’s success does not derive from just criticism, but also the acknowledgments, and when you have your own accomplishments, do not bash yourself up about what you could have done better, rather, start with the things that you did well.
I have never been good at this, and in fact, I am still not so great at it. It is a work in progress. I do believe that nobody is just good at doing this from day one. And, this is a life-long process. People always blame themselves for the things they do wrong. Now, I am not saying that you have to just live life without finding things to improve on.
No, it is indeed very important to find things to improve on, but I am saying that instead of just finding what you did wrong, find what you did right first, feel good about yourself, then move on and find things that you did wrong to work on it and improve for the next time.
Make it a learning experience. See, if we just continue bashing ourselves up for what we did wrong, it is very likely that we will only focus on what we did wrong for a limited amount of time, and we would lack in finding things to improve on for the future.
This would result in a repeated mistake that could have been avoided in the first place. Making the same mistake twice is very inefficient and unproductive. So why not change your habits? Once you start to love yourself a little more, you would be willing to figure out what not to do next time, avoiding the same mistake from happening twice.
Additionally, self-love is very important for mental health. Why should you care about something someone says? If someone body shames you, do not listen to them. I know this is easier said than done but think about it.
One person out of 7 billion people in the world is making fun of you for something that is not in your control. Or, even if it is just about something random, for example, if you are passionate about playing the piano and someone says you are a nerd for playing the piano, do not listen to them.
There is no point in being self-conscious about something that another person says about you. Because in reality, they making fun of something about you, does not show what is wrong with you, it just shows their insecurity.
There are many ways to love yourself. I am here to tell you something I do, and it has really helped me love myself even more. Wake up every morning and think about everything you should be grateful for.
Think about all of your friends, your family, your happy place. Because at the end of the day, if you love yourself, the things that you do will be a direct reflection of how well you treat yourself – how much you love yourself. So go out there and be in the real world. Listen to yourself. Work for yourself. Love yourself.
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Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
Sitting back at home during quarantine, there was not a moment that I had not felt the desire to hang out with my friends, go on vacation, and just have fun. But looking at the situation in the real world, I instantly knew that this was not going to happen anytime soon, and to be honest, it was quite frightening. I remember, there was one specific day when I was bored like never before. My friends couldn’t go biking, the tennis courts were not open then for me to just play tennis, so I had absolutely nothing to do.
